Somia Basar is Indian. “I’m safe from domestic violence,” she said at the age of 36.
Displaced by her country, family, culture and identity, she lives in exile in England.
Somia’s conversion to hell began when she was 19 years old.
She is married to an Englishman in Mumbai. At the time, they did not know each other.
“My thoughts about marriage were shattered. I immediately felt like I was a slave,” she said.
“He saw me as a babysitter,” she says, as a housemaid, babysitter, cook and, as she puts it.
Undaunted, he began to abuse her physically, psychologically, and financially.
“He used to attack me immensely. My whole life was under his control,” she said.
For years, she endured such abuse for the sake of her children. As the saying goes, “The buffalo was stabbed for the sake of her children.”
After more than a decade of suffering, she decided to divorce her husband; She did as she was told. The court decided to give her three children to her.
But her ex-husband moved to England with her three children. This broke her heart beyond words.
For months she struggled to get her children back, and when she became discouraged, She joined the South Black Sisters, a charity that supports women who have been victims of domestic violence.