(Excerpt from Dr. Job’s new book, The Pain of Pushing)
It is undeniable that we all have a seed of fear of being pushed to some extent. In particular, a person who is in a state of emotional turmoil or who has experienced a relapse in the past may drive for life until they take appropriate action.
“The biggest choice I have in my life is between my deep desire to be part of a society and my suspicion of belonging,” says one who is well-versed in the process.
Because a person is connected to a social process, he or she has a deep desire to be loved, accepted, and a member of society. However, there is a difficult situation that interferes with this healthy and natural need. People do not want to be pushed and ostracized as much as they want fellowship and acceptance. This unwillingness to push and isolate can lead to many psychological, emotional, and social crises if not balanced.
As this misguided tendency gradually grows to the point of fear of being pushed, we begin to stifle our many activities. Fear of being pushed is a feeling that can have a profound effect on people’s daily lives. We don’t want to be pushed, ostracized, and rejected, so we close our eyes and deny the truth and start fleeing.
For example, some people look for a job after a winter interview and look for a reason why they will not be able to move forward for fear of being rejected. In the same way, there are people who tend to be afraid of Christmas when they find themselves in a situation where they find themselves in business, dating, dating, and so on. And this fear prevents us from enjoying the universal taste of life.
In my next post, you can look at yourself and think about it so that you don’t have to worry about some important activities until you come back with the characteristics of a person who is afraid of being pushed.
A person who lives in fear of being pushed should realize that he is in prison. On the contrary, instead of being afraid of being pushed, one who uses everything that happens for the sake of education and strength will move from one level of excellence to another.
If you are interested in knowing if this fear of pushing is dangerous in your life, you can use the following points for self-examination.
One of the characteristics we see when we think of Christmas is that it is unacceptable, and the first thing we do is to change our true identity and try to be what we are not. We want to show the situation and the “identity” that we think will be acceptable because we think we can be marginalized if we show their true identity. This can be very tiring and can lead to bankruptcy.
- Strive to please people
Just as we do what we can to end pain or suffering, people who are too afraid of being pushed will do anything to avoid being pushed and stigmatized. So, when they are in a situation where they are afraid of being rejected, they do this and that because they think that if they do anything that pleases the people there, they will accept us.
But this tragedy has never been successful. One of the reasons is that when we are overwhelmed by the fear of being pushed and the pressure to cheer people up, the things we do to please people can even upset people. In any case, when we look at the situation from our point of view, the movement is ultimately a failure.
In the last section, we looked at two characteristics of a person who is afraid of being pushed. Today we will look at two more signs
- A gentle approach
People who are afraid of being pushed do not like to express themselves at all. This lack of expression comes because they do not know which position will push them. Therefore, when they are presented with a soft and unstable position, they change their position and approach to avoid being pushed when they see the situation as unacceptable.
But they do not think that this unbalanced attitude will make them even more unacceptable. Besides, they may begin to develop long-term tendencies, such as the fear of expressing interest, the inability to speak up, the abandonment of personal belongings, even when hurt.
- Carrying out human misconduct
A person who is very afraid of being pushed does not want to deal with feelings of isolation and rejection in any way. One of the mistakes he makes to make this happen is to take human misbehavior and fall victim to human control.
When people lose their way, when they do something that is against their personality and when they control it as they please, he does not take action even when he knows he must stop it. Because he thinks they can isolate or push people out of their lives if they challenge and confront him. Such a person tends to think that it is easier to bear the brunt of a person’s behavior than to bear the burden of being pushed.
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